Rebekah did
something unique to all other women in Genesis. After 20 years of infertility,
God had answered her husband Isaac’s prayer and granted them conception. But
that joyful outcome caused stress a few months later. Due to an uncomfortable
pregnancy, Rebekah “went to inquire of the Lord.” She seems to be the only
woman in Genesis who asked God a question, expecting an answer. Notice her
desperation: "If it be so, why am I thus?" (Genesis 25:22 KJV).
Wasn't this
pregnancy God's will? Yes. Didn't God want Isaac to have a son in fulfillment
of His Covenant with Abraham? Yes. Had Rebekah done anything sinful, illegal,
immoral, or foolish? Not that we know of. If she and Isaac had God's blessing
and were doing God's will, why would Rebekah have such a difficult time?
That is
exactly the question I ask every time I suffer. If I’m following You, why am I thus? What did I do to deserve this? If
something can make this pain/discomfort/inconvenience go away, tell me, and hurry!
God has His reasons. He is not obliged to tell them to me, as Job learned (see
Job 40:4-5; 42:2-6).
However, God
did answer Rebekah. His explanation was twins, and their sibling rivalry
“kicked” in even before they could breathe. But God's redemptive plan regarding
this struggle eventually turned Jacob, the heel-catcher
into Israel—prince with God.
Fast forward 40
years. Esau now had two wives who were outside of the Covenant and “were a
grief of mind to Isaac and Rebekah” (Genesis 26:34-35 NKJV). Either family
values were not communicated effectively to Esau or he ignored them. Likewise, Isaac,
blind and supposedly dying, disregarded the directive God had given before the
twins were born, that the older (Esau) would serve the younger (Jacob). If his
favored son Esau would satisfy Isaac’s belly, Isaac would bless him. Esau
likewise seemed oblivious to the fact that he had previously despised the
birthright and traded it to Jacob for a full stomach (25:33-34). Like father,
like son.
PLANNING NOT
PRAYING
When Rebekah
overheard her husband’s plan to give the Covenant blessing to the wrong son
(Genesis 27:1-10), why didn’t she take this struggle to the Lord? Rebekah’s failure
to “inquire of the Lord” in this situation tore apart her family.
Instead of
trusting God to work things out, or even reasoning with Isaac, Rebekah devised
her own plan to get what she wanted for her favored son Jacob. Rather than
surrendering to God, she strategized. Jacob did receive the blessing, but his
dishonesty and his mother’s deceit brought severe results. Like mother, like
son.
This pattern of conniving would be purged out
of Jacob during 20 years of Laban deceiving him (Genesis 31:7, 38-41). But the
immediate consequence was severed relationships. Esau intended to kill Jacob.
Rebekah therefore conceived another plan. She would send Jacob out of harm’s
way until Esau cooled off in a little while (Genesis 27:42-44), but that turned
into 20 years (Genesis 31:38-41). Rebekah never saw her beloved Jacob again.
Neither
Rebekah nor Isaac could thwart God’s plan. He incorporated their failures and
overcame every obstacle to His promises, but they brought pain on themselves by
trying to circumvent what God had said. The flawed people of Genesis remind me
to never stop trusting God. He is not my last resort, after other options fail,
and He does not need my scheming, nor even my suggestions.
LESSONS FROM REBEKAH
When we plan
things our own way instead of seeking God and waiting on Him, disastrous things
result. Rebekah’s family ruptured over an inheritance issue. Sound familiar?
Many times when a sibling persists in getting what he or she wants, that person
afterward becomes estranged from the family. Galatians 5:15 paints a vivid word
picture. When we fight and bite one another, both parties get devoured—the
relationship suffers or dies.
Rebekah’s
experience instructs us to take every problem to God like she did with her
difficult pregnancy. God began to teach me that lesson when my first pregnancy
resulted in a baby with a chronic blood condition. His need for continual
monitoring, blood transfusions, and surgery five years later kept me dependent
on God. No matter how old we are in the Christian life, we never outgrow basic
spiritual disciplines like casting our burdens on the Lord.
However, we
don’t need to ask why when we know Who. If we wonder, Why am I thus? we have the answer in 2 Timothy 2:21—because He
desires to turn us earthen pots into vessels of honor, “sanctified and useful
for the Master, prepared for every good work" (NKJV). God’s plan for us includes
physical and emotional anguish at times, but even that surpasses any agenda we may
devise.
Personally, I
know God is in control, but I also
need to let Him take control. Every
struggle should be an opportunity to submit my needs and my will to Him. He
knows what He’s doing in my life, and that means I don’t have to. By God’s
grace I can pray, "If it be so, Thy will be done.”